Hi FG,
Welcome to Microsoft Q&A forum.
I’m truly sorry you and your partner are going through this. Being locked out after a compromise is stressful enough, but having hospital appointment emails tied to that inbox makes the situation even more urgent and overwhelming. It’s completely understandable that you don’t want more security lectures right now—you just need a realistic path forward.
That said, please note that this is a user-to-user support forum. Moderators, contributors including external Microsoft employees cannot directly intervene in Microsoft product features or access back-end systems. Our role is limited to providing technical guidance on reported issues, requests, or ideas only.
In your situation, the most direct recovery option Microsoft provides is the Microsoft Account Recovery (ACSR) form: https://account.live.com/acsr.
If the form is declined, Microsoft allows you to submit again (up to twice per day), and recommends including as much accurate historical account information as possible each time to improve verification chances.
Please feel free to let me know if you have any further updates, thanks.
Thank you for your understanding.
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