Hi Jay Rosenthal,
Windows 11 utilizes the RDP protocol more aggressively over UDP (RDP Shortpath) compared to older OS versions. Many SSL VPN adapters have smaller MTU sizes which cause these UDP packets to fragment and drop without logging an event on the host OS, because the packet never creates a valid session at the application layer. When you change the port, you likely force the connection to fail over to TCP or bypass the VPN's "RDP Optimization" logic.
To resolve this, you need to force the Windows 11 target machine to stop listening for RDP on UDP and rely strictly on TCP. Please apply this registry change to the target office Windows 11 computer:
Open the Registry Editor (regedit) as an Administrator and navigate to HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE\SOFTWARE\Policies\Microsoft\Windows NT\Terminal Services. In the right-hand pane, look for a DWORD value named fServerDisableUDP. If it does not exist, right-click, select New > DWORD (32-bit) Value, and name it fServerDisableUDP. Double-click this value and set the data to 1.
After applying this key, restart the "Remote Desktop Services" via services.msc or simply reboot the target computer. This will force all incoming RDP connections to use the TCP protocol, which is much more stable over SSL VPN tunnels.
Additionally, regarding ESET: even if the "Firewall" module is not installed, ESET often includes a "Network Attack Protection" (IDS) module that functions separately. This module contains signatures specifically monitoring port 3389 for BlueKeep-style exploits or brute-force patterns. Since your custom port worked, it bypassed this signature check. If the UDP fix above does not immediately resolve it, please inspect the ESET settings specifically for Network Attack Protection or Botnet Protection and ensure the VPN subnet is whitelisted there, as this layer sits below the Windows Event Viewer's ability to log a login attempt.
I hope you've found something useful here. If it helps you get more insight into the issue, it's appreciated to accept the answer. Should you have more questions, feel free to leave a message. Have a nice day!
VP