Hi Rainy,
Welcome to Microsoft Community.
- How are you trying to update driver for Xbox 360 controller?
- When you try to install the Xbox 360 controller driver manually, does it installs successfully? Does it show in device manager, before you restart your computer?
Looks like the Xbox 360 controller driver is not installed properly or if installed not getting configured properly with windows.
Follow the steps in the article below to troubleshoot Xbox 360 controller issue.
Troubleshoot your Xbox 360 controller for Windows ****http://support.xbox.com/en-AU/xbox-on-other-devices/windows/xbox-controller-for-windows-help
If issue persists after following above article, I would suggest you to post your query on our Xbox forum to get more appropriate and exact responses.
Here is the link for Xbox Forums
Hope this helps. Please reply for any further assistance, we will be glad to assist you.