Thanks for your help, dnnglvcnt8. The tutorial you mentioned did not actually solve the problem, but it gave me a hint to what would solve it. I'll describe what I did in the hopes that it will help others.
The trick was to make the changes in the graphics adapter settings. (in my case it was the on-board graphics of my Intel CPU.) I right clicked on the desktop to open Graphics properties, then looked at multiple displays settings. I made my Lenovo monitor
the primary display. I had to reboot a couple of times, but it got back to the way it was supposed to be, with the icons on my Lenovo monitor. Then I noticed that my scaling problem was back, windows on the Lenovo monitor expanded when moved to the extended
display (Samsung TV). See my previous question a few days ago, "Different Window scaling with dual monitors".
I tried changing the scaling in both the Display Settings and the Graphics Properties, but without success.
I looked in the graphics adapter settings again, and saw that the resolution of the Samsung TV was set to 1024x768. I changed it back to the correct 1920x1080, and that solved the scaling problem. Had to reboot again, but finally the icons were on my primary
display (Lenovo monitor) and windows did not change size when moved from one display to the other.
Then I noticed that my Taskbar had now moved to the TV, instead of where it belonged on the primary display (Lenovo monitor). I wasn't able to set the Taskbar location to the primary display in Taskbar settings (there was a setting for that in the Display
Settings of my previous installation of Windows). But in Taskbar settings, I was able to unlock the Taskbar, manually drag it back to the primary display, the lock it again.
With that, I think I'm done. All is well with my dual displays.