No, not to be rude, but nothing is going to fix it. It's the cold hard truth as I sit here trying to figure it out for the past hour.
Solution: https://www.reddit.com/r/sony/comments/fqf71z/wh1000xm3_can_only_use_stereo_or_handsfree_but/
TDLR: you can't. Get a dedicated mic, and use that for audio input, and then use the A2DP mode (Stereo mode) for audio output.
Seems really dumb, but there's nothing else unless you want bad sounding audio, at which point, just disable Stereo mode completely which is another thing because I can't figure out how to get back to HSP mode as Windows 11 "just works" and unifies the two Bluetooth profiles.