Hello, Eric. I'm Greg, 10 years awarded Windows MVP, here to help you.
Make sure you're following all of these steps to create and save your Theme:
https://www.thewindowsclub.com/create-save-use-...
https://www.tenforums.com/tutorials/41564-save-...
There are two suspects if it's losing theme after waking from Sleep. First is the 1) Display adapter which controls everything about both display (themes) and Sleep; and 2) Account Corruption which we can test.
The Display driver is so important here that merely updating it is sometimes not enough. So let's try everything possible to get it working correctly:
First make sure you have updated the Display driver from the PC or Display adapter maker's Support Downloads web page for your exact model number, HP Serial Number or Dell Service Tag - from the sticker on the PC.
If necessary first remove the old driver using DDU https://www.wagnardsoft.com/content/ddu-guide-t... (not necessary with Microsoft Basic driver which is a placeholder if nothing else is available) and/or installing in Safe Mode with Networking (so you have internet), or Safe Mode, accessed by one of these methods: https://www.digitalcitizen.life/4-ways-boot-saf...
While there check also for newer chipset, BIOS/UEFI firmware (very important), network, sound, USB3 and other drivers, comparing to the ones presently installed in Device Manager reached by right clicking the Start Menu.
If this doesn't give you the latest or ideal driver for what you need, compare it to the driver offered by the Intel driver update Utility here: http://www.intel.com/content/www/us/en/support/...
or the Nvidia Update utility here: http://www.nvidia.com/Download/Scan.aspx?lang=e...
or the AMD autodect utility here: http://support.amd.com/us/gpudownload/windows/P...
For Display issues one fix that is working is to Roll back or Uninstall the Driver on the Display Device > Driver tab, restart PC to reinstall driver.
You can also try older drivers in Device Manager > Display device > Driver tab > Update Driver > Browse > Let Me Pick.
Then you will know you've tried everything in addition to Windows Update drivers.
Adjust the screen resolution until it fits and looks best at Settings > System > Display.
Check for a monitor driver by expediting Windows Updates (including Optional Updates) in Settings > Update & Security > Windows Update > Check for Updates to install all Updates until no more are offered.
- Test for account corruption by creating a new Local Admin account to see if the problem goes away. Step-by-step instructions here:
https://www.isumsoft.com/windows-10/3-ways-to-c...
Sign into the new account, test it works correctly, if so move files over, test all apps work or reinstall any that don't. Then when ready delete the old account in Settings > Accounts > Family & Other Users.
You can then change it to your Microsoft account if desired:
https://www.tenforums.com/tutorials/5375-switch...
Feel free to ask back any questions. Based on the results you post back I may have other suggestions if necessary.
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