Hello, just finished trying all the steps you provided me and still dont have the icon, and I also noticed that the "Windows security notification icon" isnt even running in task manager. Another thing I noticed is that when I restarted my PC for a split second I saw the Icon on the taskbar with the yellow "!", however when I went to the "Windows security notification Icon.exe" i ran it and the icon was on the taskbar with a green checkmark. Weird.
Another question I have is when I turn my computer on and open task manager I see that the windows defender processes take a minute or two to start is that normal?