Okay, first of all holding the power button forces your machine to turn off, like yanking the power cord out of the back of the computer. Don't do that.
I had the same problem with an RTX 2070 super. I tried swapping cables, I tried newer cables that supported HDMI 2.1, rolling back drivers, trying a different monitor and nothing actually helped. This was only happening when I used an HDMI cable with HDMI port on the card. The other monitor, which was plugged in to display port, never had an issue.
My problem ended up being the refresh rate of 144Hz. I lowered it to 120Hz and still had issues. Then I lowered it to 60Hz and all my problems went away. It turned out to be HDCP renegotiation/EDID. Turns out when games and full screen apps, such as Steam, went full screen (not windowed full screen, but actual full screen), it would drop from 120Hz to 60Hz. This caused a renegotiation. Due to quirks in either the card firmware or monitor firmware (haven't been able to determine which), the timing gets off, so it renegotiates over and over and over, causing a random black screen and sound to cut out.
120Hz and higher requires a higher quality cable and more precise timing, so if cable struggles to handle the speed or timing is off thanks to quirky firmware, then you'll have these blackouts. Usually, what happens is things will go black the instant you go full screen and then keep doing it randomly after that, because it never recovered.
Hope this helps!