Hello @savemightlife ,
Welcome to the MS Q&A platform.
Are you using SSMS? If yes, could you please let me know your SSMS version?
I can able to view the estimated execution plan and XML plan using SSMS v19.0
To view the XML plan use the command SET SHOWPLAN_XML ON
To view the estimated execution plan, you can enable it from SSMS(please see the below screenshot)