Glad to see that your issue had already been resolved and thanks for sharing the solution so that others experiencing the same thing can easily reference this! Since the Microsoft Q&A community has a policy that "The question author cannot accept their own answer. They can only accept answers by others", I'll repost your solution in case you'd like to "Accept" the answer.
[How to send message to private mail server]
Issue Symptom:
We have mail flow send connector, if any email are send to abc@192.168.5.132 it should be routed from exchange 2016 box but for some reason they try to go from exchange online not from our exchange 2016 box.
Solution:
In Exchange Online Under Outbound Connector
Under Use of Connector I have add the IP 192.168.5.132 and it start all working