OK, I'm editing my response here. I can see that I did not add 'deleted' to the list of events to subscribe to. I am now getting deleted and updated events on a decline.
So my next question is this is anyone is out there: How do I then get hold of the EXACT event that has been declined. I can see user and event ids in the response data, but on trying to obtain this info based on the id, I don't get the event that has been declined, just a whole bunch of events going backwards in time form now.
I'm kind of assuming that as it has been declined, it no longer exists. In which case, what's the point of an ID and is this possible, in any way? I'm hoping someone can advise.