Hello Mike Frazer,
Thank you for posting in Microsoft Community forum.
The recommended method is adding new 2019 server to domain and promoting this 2019 server to Domain Controller, we do not recommend to perform in-place upgrade OS from 2012 R2 to 2019.
Prerequisites
1.Review Windows Server 2019 release notes and system requirements.
2.Register, then download and install. (Note: This evaluation edition expires in 180 days.)
3.Receive emails with resources to guide you through your evaluation.
Installation Guidelines
After installation, install the latest servicing package.
1.Go to: Microsoft update catalog and search for "Windows Server 2019”.
2.Evaluation versions of Windows Server must activate over the internet in the first 10 days to avoid automatic shutdown.
For more information about Evaluation versions of Windows Server 2019, please view link below.
Windows Server 2019 | Microsoft Evaluation Center
Please note:
You may encounter any issue during the upgrade of 2012 R2 server, please had better back up all the data about domain controller (using built-in Windows backup role to back up), DHCP, DNS, and file server on this 2012 R2 server.
Meanwhile, here is a thread about best way to upgrade windows server 2012 r2 domain controllers to 2019 domain controllers, step by step.
What is the best way to upgrade windows server 2012 r2 domain - Microsoft Community
I hope the information above is helpful.
If you have any question or concern, please feel free to let us know.
Best Regards,
Daisy Zhou