Hi @frob ,
Currently, there is no OOB settings in SharePoint Online to control how often expiration notification emails are sent. The notification emails are sent by system and does not support customization either.
Please feel free to make your features suggestions on the Microsoft SharePoint Dev Platform feedback portal on UserVoice.
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