Thanks for the answer
1.- windows 10 and windows 11
2.- tested with 4 different accounts, same problem, even after deleting all the mails in one of the accounts
3.- created new new user profile in outlook for windows, new accounts in exchange server 2013 cu23 and same problem.
Problem started after updating Exchange server 2013 to CU23... before that emails with attachments around 20 Mb ( had a couple of bigger attachments) were sent and received without any problem
problem is only sending emails with big attachments, receiving its ok.
the problem its only with outlook for windows (outlook 2016, 2019), owa, outlook for mac, email app for android and iphone email app have no problems, read somewhere a similar problem in exchange 2016 cu23 but lost track of the page.
thanks for the help
R.