I am the original asker here. After seeing this tons of times in my office, THE ONLY way to fix it is to go in to the control panel, find the Nvidia or Intel app and change it in there, I sometimes have to use the Windows part to move monitors around as even the OEM program has problems sometimes.
It's a PIA problem that even happens in Windows 11.... and although this thread gives some good ideas, even the OEM thing does not always do it perfectly.
This is not the same problem. Your problem it only shows on one monitor. This issue is about NOT being able to set the MAIN display.