I have a pair of Windows 2019 Servers running 2019 Enterprise Edition SQL ..
They are currently configured in a Always on role one primary and one backup. Failover works fine ..
So lets go though what happened last night:
SQL Server 1 had a windows update, it ran and rebooted. This caused SQL2 to become active and everything failed over without issues.
When SQL1 came back up, SQL is set to manual (something is setting this as I have changed it a number of times), and SQL1 never starts, therefore no failback can occur.
When I go to cluster manager and tell it to select the best possible node (after starting SQL1 services and verifying they are replicated and synced), then it failback to SQL1, but then SQL2 services are stopped.
My assumption is that i missed an item or something in the Custer configuration, but i don't know what and don't know how to fix it .. suggestions....